The Fuck?
People still promote this type of ignorance?
The Black race among all is probably the only that has an extensive case of self-hate and it’s pitiful. I believe this attitude came from slavery if you ask me. You remember how you were told Massa only breeded with black women, all of what he dated was white or damn near? So teach all that in school, put it in books to read, broadcast this on television for society and you see what you’ve done…
You got these losers I’m following on Twitter filling my timeline up with darkskin & lightskin hashtag topics!
Black people are so quick to get offensive and yell out racism whenever we feel we’ve been mistreated but a week later call someone of a darker skin tone “a darkbutt”.
It is a shame because in 2006, I, myself, was cracking semi-serious jokes about giving birth to a child of light/fair complexion. My daughter is 2 shades lighter than me while her father is damn near charcoal. My mother, who is 1 tone away from being lightskin, used to jokingly call me prejudice. Me describing all these skin tones like this is so fucked up. You think Africans and Indians debate on shit like shades of color? I love myself of course, but blame society for feeding us the nonsense that lightskin is prettier. And yes, all light-skinned women do believe this unfortunately. Even obese, dumb lightskinned women with bad acne and big sloppy ass titties has taken society’s opinion as a boost in their confidence. I guess all that is better than a decent looking darkskinned girl with something going for herself huh?
Growing up in the 90s, all my fave artists (particularly Immature) had the teenaged LSLH* model play lead role, they had celebrity crushes on only LSLH artists and that’s basically all you saw as far as singers of that time. When light-skinned men got apparently “played-out”, darker skinned men so called “took over” as far as for sex appeal and that has since become the ideal cute black couple ever since: the handsome dark black man and the skinny *light-skinned longhaired woman.
We’ve all dealt with this. Don’t get it twisted, yes, you can have a preference but when you start feeling a little Michael Jackson’ish and desire to be “something else” besides Black; Or when you criticize your own, judge, and/or your own is not up to your standards then you may be dealing with self-hate.
Figure 1: Do you think Julio and ‘nem be in the cut dissin’ Miguel in the wife beater ‘cause ‘homes’ is a tad bit lighter than they are?
Figure 2: Your average/celebrity darkskinned brother.
He could have been fed the same bullshit we all were so he feels he NEEDS to date LSLH. It’s also an ego booster for him as well. He thinks like this: “Man, I got this. I got the prettiest, the best. So I’m the best!” Now this is not all men, just that kind of man. Majority of the celebrities and sports stars you constantly see out with the same type of “model” woman. See the expression on that nigga’s face? Now he’s happy!
Figure 3: Yeah, go ahead and take a look at what your “career” could have been.
Moving on…
Figure 3: Marquetta “Punkin” Robinson
This young lady is one of my dearest friends, however I’m coming to realize she, too, has some form of self-hate. She may read my blog but like I’ve stated already: This is my blog and what I should express is real or what I feel, with no disrespect to anyone. With me being around her for almost 5 years, she’s went from Apple Bottom, Baby Phat, etc. to Aeropostale, Ebonics to Proper English, Ford city/Evergreen plaza to only Chicago Ridge and Downtown, etc. Now I have converted to those same things as well, but wait there’s more:
- She doesn’t date black men, only prefers white (or maybe latino) men because “black men only want to be thugs”.
- Doesn’t listen to rap or R&B often. Hangs with only those black people who act white or ‘non-ghetto’. So quick to get offended of a racist white man, but hey this is what she wants.
- I think she’s a little too critical of black people and overexaggerates stereotypes of black people, especially men. For the most part, she has had low self-esteem and feel that her type of man can make her happy. I don’t know how because a white man won’t always understand you as a black woman.
I’ve told her before that she may miss out on the man who completely adores her because she’s paying attention to what race he is. Just because the African-American percentages of good quality of things are or maybe low, does not mean it doesn’t happen in other races. White men cheat too; They are poor; They leave their children’s mother. I really didn’t care about her “self-hate” until the other day she was discussing her male friend (yes, he’s white) wanting to have full custody of his son. She states how she’s relieved the child is 11 years old because she doesn’t want to be bothered with any problems coming from a mother a man may face with a very young child.
Here’s the killer: “You know, then his babymama’s black, soooo ya know I don’t wanna go through that babymama drama”.
The fuck? I’m Black and yes I am a “baby’s mother”. I don’t give my daughter’s father any drama. Whatever I am unhappy with, yes I let him know but when women do that, let’s not always call it what it is not.
I responded to this because I realized she believes that all black women start drama or are involved in it. When I told her that just because someone’s “babymama” is black doesn’t mean she gives him drama, she agreed as ‘I know’. No, you don’t know because if “you knew” you wouldn’t have initially said that. That is something an Indian, White, Asian woman would say, not a Black woman, so I feel she since she’s distanting herself from her true self (black), obviously she too, like the races mentioned, has nothing to believe but stereotypes.
I’ll tell you like this: No matter how light you are, you are still Black. Think not? Ask that white police officer pulling you over. While you are possibly burning bridges with your darker brothers and sisters, move into a complete white neighborhood. Trust me, they won’t have your back and they don’t give a damn how light you are. They still see Black and it’s unfortunate that you don’t want to see it.
September 03, 2009, 6:23pm
